[This book] has the potential to improve responses to domestic abuse for all victims, their children and others impacted by abusive behaviour. James Morgan Brown Review Domestic violence and sexuality changes the public story about domestic violence. The heart of the book is the rich trove of interviews in which female and male identified survivors reflect on their experience. Respectful, often heart-breaking and always instructive, this work sets a gold standard for how we understand domestic abuse in same sex relationships. Evan Stark, Professor Emeritus, Rutgers School of Public Affairs and Administration Hester and Donovan present compelling new research that explores love and violence in both same sex and heterosexual relationships. We see the impact of societal and cultural beliefs on experiences of domestic violence across different genders and sexualities. This is essential reading for researchers and practitioners who want to stop partner abuse and promote respectful and equal relationships. Professor Janice Ristock, PhD, Vice-Provost (Academic Affairs), University of Manitoba, Canada This book is not just about DVA in same sex relationships, although its contributions in that arena would be more than enough for me to call it a must read. Beyond that, Donovan and Hester's analysis of their data in terms of both power/control and practices of love provides insights that go beyond same-sex relationships and beyond intimate partner violence. Michael P. Johnson, Emeritus Professor of Sociology, Women's Studies, and African and African American Studies, Pennsylvania State University